Should our goal be to age gracefully or be as loud and forceful as possible? I read an interview with Sofia Vergara who comes at the discussion by setting aside the traditional Latina point of view. Latinas have held high standards for traditional beauty, that women should do whatever they can to achieve those standards for themselves.
The actress is into her 50’s now, and acknowledges the double standards that women face. Women are expected to look beautiful and not appear to age, but are criticized for having cosmetic procedures done. Vergara says, “Beauty has evolved so much over time, and it’s no longer about fitting a mold or a standard; it’s about feeling confident, empowered, and authentic — whatever that means to you,” she says. “When we remove this stigma, we get the freedom of our own choices and celebrate the idea that beauty isn’t one size fits all, it’s personal.”
I’ve said before that fitness is an individual thing. What one person considers fit may not be another’s idea of fitness. The same for beauty. If a woman is feeling good about herself, then it doesn’t matter what anyone else says about them.
That’s easier said than done. Words hurt. And we live in the golden age of bullies. Bullying is rampant in social media. Everyone is the target.
But it’s important that we grow a thicker skin about things that we feel are important. If we’re confident in ourselves, and feeling empowered in our choices, we can face those bullies head on and tell them to mind their own business. Or say to ourselves that people are going to say whatever they’re going to say. There’s nothing we can do about that, but be true to our own ideas and values.
We’re being strong in our commitment to ourselves. And that can reveal itself in the choices we make in our diet, our exercise program, in our mindset. We’re strong in our beliefs and that carries through to our everyday lives. Our optimism grows, and so does our resilience.
And that makes us beautiful. That’s how we age gracefully. By holding true to what we believe.
