Change is hard. But sometimes worth it.

Change is hard. But I’ll get to that in a minute. I’m lucky enough to be getting older. And while I’m approaching my healthy aging with good habits and intentions, there are days when my knees, hips and shoulders let me know that they’ve been used. Those days I’m stiff and achy and grumpy. My sister wanted to try turmeric paste, or “Golden Paste,” for our aging dogs, and she suggested that I try it too. I agreed, because it’s all natural and I don’t mind the taste. 

Benefits of turmeric

While there’s no real definitive study that proves this to be true, there are studies that suggest that turmeric, when combined with black pepper, is effective in reducing the risk of chronic inflammation and in reducing arthritis pain. Plus some research suggests that it helps fight cognitive decline, which is especially important for our healthy aging. You’ll note that turmeric is combined with black pepper for better absorption and effectiveness. I don’t like black pepper, especially not in large quantities.

How to incorporate the stuff into my diet?

So, there’s the dilemma. Change is hard. But I want to incorporate this “Golden Paste”  into my diet. The paste is prepared by reducing a large amount of turmeric in water, then adding coconut oil and a large amount of black pepper as the mixture cools. I tried mixing the paste in my morning orange juice. It was terrible. I mentioned that I don’t like black pepper to start with, and mixing it in orange juice was really awful. But, I’m resilient. I can come back from this awfulness and think of something else.

An old-timey solution

Then my sister came up with the idea of mixing it with cottage cheese for breakfast. I had been eating an egg every morning, along with a tomato. (Don’t knock it – it’s good.) But cottage cheese could take the place of the egg – it’s high in protein and doesn’t have substantially more calories. And it’s good with tomato. Years ago, I remember my mom loved cottage cheese and tomato, spiced with seasoned salt. The golden paste could take the place of the salt. So I tried it, and the cottage cheese has a strong enough flavor to mask the pepper.

Change is hard, but joints that don't ache will be good!

I’ve been eating this concoction for about a week, and things look promising. I don’t want to say much, because the paste is supposed to take several weeks for its effectiveness to be noted. But even though change is hard, this change is palatable.

The moral of this story? Even though we resist change, sometimes the results are worth it. And if this stuff works, even a little, I’ll be that much further toward my goals. Imagine not waking up to aching hips and knees. And if I’m not hurting when I fall into bed at night, a good night’s sleep will be that much easier.

Dive deep into the cause behind your lack of motivation.

We’ve all been there. “Just not feeling it.” It seems like your lack of motivation is chronic. You wake up thinking, “Today’s the day! I’ll work out. And I’ll eat right! It’ll be great!” And then you sit down and … nothing. Or you promise yourself that today’s the day you start writing. You know you have a book in you and it’s going to start emerging today. But from one day to the next your motivation seems to be nonexistent. You have no energy for the goal you thought you wanted. You’re doubting your ability to do it. And you ask yourself, “Why? Why can’t I get it done?” It’s time to dive deeper into the cause behind your lack of motivation. Try to figure out what’s causing you to lose motivation.

Bored? Stressed? Overwhelmed?

According to Betterhelp.com, “boredom, stress, burnout, feeling overwhelmed, and a lack of clear goals can lead many people to a lack of motivation. Setting small, achievable goals, practicing self-care, changing your environment, and turning to others for inspiration can be helpful in regaining motivation.”

So, if you’re bored and stuck in a routine that no longer inspires you, it may be time to do something a little different. Shake up your routine and start your day differently. For example, if you’re like me and eat the same thing for breakfast every day (OJ, coffee, chopped tomato and hard boiled egg), have something different. (Today I had cottage cheese instead of an egg. Yay for me!) Just a little change can affect you in a big way.

Give yourself a break

Exercise to take a break from stress.

If you’re feeling burned out, it’s understandable. These days we’re all feeling overwhelmed and stressed by politics, the economy, and in some places the weather. Take a step back and do something good for yourself. Turn off your screens for a while and give yourself a break. Read a few chapters in a book – and not on an ereader. Go exercise.

Can’t focus? Maybe you need clarity

If you can’t seem to focus, or what you actually do is underwhelming and uninspired, it could be that your goal is unfocused. Assess your goal. Make sure that it’s specific enough. That you can quantify the end result. Go back to your goal creation worksheet in your Get It Done Guide and follow the steps precisely. You’ll end up with a goal that’s achievable. (Download this worksheet today if you don’t already have it and get started on planning your goals.)

And when you have an achievable goal, your lack of motivation will disappear. You will wake up energized and ready to work on your goal. You’ll have created actionable steps that are easy for you to follow and you’ll see results.

Making plans is for the strong

It occurred to me the other day as I was planning out a series of posts that the future was going to happen. It takes a certain kind of strength to plan for the future. Strength of will, and strength of being. You trust that some things will happen, and other things might. That requires a great deal of resilience  – trusting that you’ll get through whatever life throws at you. Making plans is for the strong.

It’s not necessarily about strength training

Making plans is for the strong.

I’m not talking about increasing your poundage for strength training when you exercise, although that’s a worthwhile goal as well. The fact that we plan at all means that we are optimistic that we’ll have a future. That we’ll be capable of performing the tasks in that plan. And we’ll actually want to see that plan to its completion.

Planning is resilience

That’s resilience at its core. Making plans and following through on them also requires strength of will. For example, say you want to move to a bigger house in eight months. That’s your goal. What’s needed for that to happen? And here’s where your planning skills take over. You’ll need to put aside a sufficient down payment. The house you’re living in must be sold, unless you’re renting. So any repairs and upgrades need to get done, unless you go sell your house as-is. And you need to find your new house. You’ll put intermediate steps and dates on all that, and put your plan into motion.

That’s a big plan. You think you’re not strong? The fact that you know that you can accomplish all of that means that you know you’re capable, you have the resources to figure things out when they go a little sideways and still come out on top. 


Making plans is for the strong. You make plans so you’re optimistic for the future and you’ll be healthier going forward. Your resilience makes it possible for you to smile through adversity, essential for your healthy aging.

How to Not Stagnate

I love to read. No surprise there, right? I was a bookworm growing up (in fact my favorite bookmark is a pink plastic worm that clips over the page!). If you needed me, just look in my room and I’d be reading a book. And now, there’s nothing I love more than setting aside a few minutes (okay, an hour) and delving into the current book on my nightstand. And that’s fine – to take a little while for your favorite hobby for a break. It’s sure tempting to read good books all day long, but that’s not how you get things done. That’s not growing, it’s standing still. Here’s how to not stagnate.

Ground your emotions every day

When you want to be your most productive self, the last thing you want is for your thougths to wander in a million directions. It’s easy for that to happen, with today’s focus on screens and newsfeeds. But to be productive and not stagnate, you need a clear mind in order to focus. My mind has a tendency to wander, so I just close my eyes and pull my thoughts in. I focus on a single thought. I take time when I get up in the morning to wash, take the dogs out, and give all of us breakfast before I turn on a single screen or check any email account. And, yes, I do read a few pages in my book at breakfast.

Daily discipline

Clinical psychologist Tricia Wolanin, PsyD, agrees that a daily discipline can help you focus for the rest of the day. She also recommends starting your day with intention, asking how you want to feel and what you want to accomplish that day. Setting that intention will also keep you going – and growing.

Set one small goal for the day

When I get to work, I make my list for the day, and at the top is one small thing I want to get done today, like check for orders on the site, or file the invoices from last week. I focus on that one thing, do it and feel accomplished. Then I’m ready to tackle some more meaty tasks. I recently wrote that we should write what we want to do. I take something from that list, and the steps that I think I can accomplish today, and write that on today’s list. And that keeps you going, and growing, and also helps you to not stagnate. Just because we’re getting older does not mean that we should cultivate moss on us. We’re growing, we’re resilient, and we’re all in for our healthy aging, too.